It’s a party of 5

party of 5

I’ve got news, y’all!

Yes, it’s happening. We are having a baby. Another baby. A fifth baby. I can confirm that this baby oven is fired up for one last babycake.

You’ve probably got questions and I’m here to answer all of them, Q&A style.


Are you completely insane?


No, seriously, WHY?? 

I know, we’re out of control. 5 kids!! This is borderline obnoxious territory. The short answer is that we really, really like babies.

About 80% of the time, I look at our 4 kids and I think, “WHAT HAVE WE DONE?? This is madness.” But then the other 20% of the time, I look at them and I think, “they’re ridiculously adorable, we should go for one more.” You know what they say about the 80-20 rule – the 20% always wins.

Also, it’s a gut thing. 5 feels right for us.

Are you really done? Or will there be #6?? #7???

Oh I’m done. So done. This factory has done it’s job, it’s time to shut it down.

I distinctly remember you saying this with the last baby. 

That is true. You should know by now that when it comes to babies, I cannot be taken seriously. I don’t have a good track record in this particular area. All it takes is for me to hold one cute baby and all bets are off.

But again, 5 feels complete for us. Besides, this body isn’t getting any younger and I don’t think I can make it through a sixth pregnancy.

Is it a boy or a girl?

This baby has to be a girl. I can feel it. I NEED A GIRL.

I can’t be the mom of 4 boys. I’m not mentally prepared for another boy at this point so just work with me here.

Have you decided on a name?

I briefly considered Chanel. Just so that I can call her Chanel #5.

Sadly, the husband did not seem to find it as amusing as I did, so that’s a no to Chanel Kao. Hahahahaha.

Hayley is still the frontrunner, with Riley and Harper following close behind.

How are the other kids taking it?

They’re actually really thrilled. I think a by product of having parents who are obsessed with babies is that the kids pick up on our baby mania instincts. They’re great at handling babies and if they had a say in this, they’d want me to have another 5 more babies. The answer to that is no, by the way.

When we broke the news to them a few weeks ago, they squealed and spontaneously broke out into a crazy dance around the room. They’ve since been taking turns to sing to the baby and tell her bedtime stories.

Like I said, these are the 20% ridiculously adorable moments that cause my lapse in judgement when it comes to making more babies.

How’s pregnancy coming along?

It’s week 10, so not great. 5 pregnancies and all of them were truly awful during the first trimester. I feel ill most of the time, until I get these massive cravings for a mcspicy and fries, but then once i eat it, I feel immense self-loathing and way more ill than I started out and I eventually end up with my face in the toilet bowl vomiting my insides out.

But with the benefit of experience, it’s easier to buckle down and ride it out till it gets better.

Is there a plan to cope with 5?

Not at this point, no. The plan is to wake up everyday and get past that day, and then the next, and the next, and the next. I fully expect the mayhem to escalate and we’ll all have to make adjustments but the kids (especially Truett and Kirsten) have really stepped up and I’m so glad to have them in my corner.

Kirsten seems to have it all worked out though.

“Easy,” she said, “I’ll be in charge of the girl’s team with baby Hayley and kor kor will be in charge of the boy’s team with Finn and Theo.”

Sounds like a pretty solid plan to me.

Final thoughts?

We’re so happy to be having this baby. I don’t for a single day take this for granted, to have these amazing kids in my life. I’m grateful for each baby that God has given to us and we take this privilege very seriously, to love them and be there for them and give them a shot at being the kind of people God planned for them to be.

We can’t wait to meet this little one. :)

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  • Reply rachel November 23, 2015 at 12:21 pm

    5 is crazy but Harper sounds great!

    • Reply Daphne December 7, 2015 at 3:08 pm

      Thanks Rachel!!

  • Reply Elynn November 23, 2015 at 12:30 pm

    Congrats! Hope u get a girl :)

    • Reply Daphne December 7, 2015 at 3:09 pm

      Thanks and me too!!!

  • Reply momo November 23, 2015 at 1:25 pm

    You’re officially the queen! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!

    • Reply Daphne December 7, 2015 at 3:13 pm

      Hahahahah thanks babe!

  • Reply Passerby November 23, 2015 at 3:28 pm


    May I just point out the similarity of the name Hayley Kao to Holy Cow. In case playground teasing is a concern. (My hubby’s name is Ho, and we did joke about naming our kid Li Kao)

    Have a great adventure :) best wishes!

    • Reply Daphne December 7, 2015 at 3:22 pm

      Haha yeah poor girl will have to get used to it. Or maybe we’ll introduce a middle name :)

  • Reply Summer November 23, 2015 at 5:36 pm

    Woohoo! Congrats Daphne and Kelvin! That’s such awesome news and I can’t wait to see pics of baby #5 though! I hope you get a girl too, Hayley sounds fantastic! :) hope the rest of the pregnancy will be smooth and easy!
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    • Reply Daphne December 7, 2015 at 3:24 pm

      Thanks Summer! Hope your pregnancy is coming along well, you’re almost there!! Your girls must be so excited :)

  • Reply Madeline November 23, 2015 at 7:43 pm

    Cross my heart but seriously my first thought was “she’s crazy!” hahaha but u guys will do just fine. Congrats! =)
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    • Reply Daphne December 7, 2015 at 3:26 pm

      Thanks!! The crazy part is definitely true though!

  • Reply Momof2 November 23, 2015 at 8:46 pm

    I was expecting this but when I read this, it still come as a shock for me. I love children too but I don’t even dare to think of no. 3 but I am really really happy for you. I admire your courage.

    Actually in my times, most families have 6 to 8 children, so never say never to never 6.


    • Reply Daphne December 7, 2015 at 3:29 pm

      Hahahaha it’ ok I’m good with 5! This madness has to end ;)

  • Reply Pris November 24, 2015 at 5:25 am

    Hey Daphne! I congratulated you on FB already but had to write a proper post here! I do admire your guts to follow your gut! Really! I can TOTALLY see you with even more kids! (I’m thinking 6/7/8). You’re only 32 /33, so many more child-bearing years there lady! And I follow the journals of some ladies in the U.S. with 7/8 kids (our generation) and their families look really stable and cohesive. Most are Christians too. So I would say, whatever desires the Lord places on your heart, He will also provide, financially, emotionally and spiritually for you and your hubby and your precious children! I really hope its a baby girl for you!
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    • Reply Daphne December 7, 2015 at 3:35 pm

      Thanks again babe!! And OMG congrats too!! So excited for you, hope the pregnancy is treating you well.

      I do love a big rowdy family, which explains why we’re crazy enough to get this far. We’ll probably take it one step at a time, but right now, it looks like we’re just about done!

  • Reply Tasha November 24, 2015 at 11:47 pm

    Hi Daphne, I’m a regular reader of your blog.

    Heartiest congratulations on your recent pregnancy! Seriously, I’m amazed by how you seem to cope so well with 4 kiddos, and another on the way.

    Looking forward to read what a life with 5 kids looks like. :)

    • Reply Daphne December 7, 2015 at 3:38 pm

      Thanks Tasha! Thankfully we’ve got lots of support from our folks. And you kind of just get used to the madness after a while. :)

  • Reply Christina January 29, 2016 at 6:01 am

    Congrats to you I have four children myself ages 14-12-6-4… And I might be expecting my 5th any suggestions on how to deal with this

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