I love that the kids are turning out to be genuinely fun to talk to. As a newly minted stay home mom, the one thing I missed the most was having a decent conversation with someone, anyone.
Most days, it was just me going on a monologue all day, and even when the kids started using words, it hardly counted as a conversation because nothing toddlers say is remotely interesting. I might have looked like I was interested in what they were saying, but it’s only because they are my babies and I’d do anything for them, including having to participate enthusiastically in the most boring conversation in the world. If those words were coming out from anyone else’s mouth, I am not even tryna do it.
But big kids, they’re actually wonderful to talk to.
Truett and Kirsten were telling me about a kid who was very popular in school.
Kirsten: [this kid] is so popular, I think everyone in the whole school knows who she is.
Tru: Ya. Everyone definitely knows her.
Me: Wah that popular??!! Would you guys like to be popular too?
Kirsten: Of course! If you’re famous, everyone will be like “can you please sign my autograph?!!”
Me: Hahaha, okay fair enough, popularity has its perks.
Tru: And people will treat you like royalty everywhere you go.
Me: Where are you guys learning these things?? Although that is also true. But hey, being popular is not the most important thing. You know what’s better than being popular?
<I was setting it up for a teaching moment here, expecting them to be all like “what mom? Please impart to us your great wisdom on life and other important topics”>
Me: Hahahhahahh What? No. WHAT?? I wasn’t expecting that answer. Okay, here’s the thing, when you look back on your primary school years, the things you’ll remember fondly are the friends you had and the fun moments you spent together. Also, being a good person is more important than being popular. Be kind, help people, make a difference – you guys don’t need to be rich or famous to do that.
Tru: HUH? That’s it?? That’s kind of boring, mom.
Me: Haiyah, one day you’ll remember this conversation and realize that I’m right, as I am with most things.
Kirsten: You know why it’s better to be a girl?
Kirsten: When boys grow up, they have to go to work, earn money. Girls can just stay home and play with babies all day, good right?
Me: Whatever gave you that idea???
Kirsten: You lah. And papa.
Me: First of all, not all girls want to have babies. And having babies doesn’t mean you have to stop working, plenty of moms keep working after they have babies. When Hayley is bigger, I’ll totally go back to work. What do you think mommy does all day anyway?
Kirsten: Hang out with the babies, play toys, read books, go pick us from school, go playground, eat dinner…all the fun things.
Me: Okay, when you put it that way…
Kirsten: And if I work when I have babies, then who will take care of them?
Me: I’ll watch your kids for you if you like, I’m pretty good at it. How many are we talking about here?
Kirsten: At least 5-6.
Me: Wow nice.
Kirsten: Kor kor says he only wants 2-3 kids, then plus Finn and Theo and Hayley, maybe 15?
Me: Hahhahahahahhahaa ok challenge accepted.
Kirsten: Just kidding lah. When I have kids, I will take care of them myself. My husband will work hard like daddy.