kids inc, motherhood

Daddy’s Girl and other tales of gender bias

November 30, 2009

There’s just something about girls and their fathers. At five months, baby girl is unabashedly biased. She’s a daddy’s girl through and through, just like mama was.

I know exactly what it’s like because I was a daddy’s girl too. I loved hanging out with my dad, whether it was running errands, having a latte or secretly eating a double whopper just before dinner and then pretending to pick at our nutritious, home-cooked food after that. You need mommies when you’re sick and miserable, but daddies, daddies are *special*. Maybe it’s the feeling of security that fathers provide, like they’re going to make everything ok.

Tru lights up when daddy’s around but not excessively so. Kirsten, however, goes into her “where’s my daddy” mode all day from the time daddy goes to work, right up to the point when daddy comes home. She’ll be all like nonchalant all day with momma around. I mean, once in a while, she will oblige me with a patronizing smile if I try real hard to make her laugh, like “erm, ok mom, you can take the chopsticks out of your nostrils now.” When she learns how to talk, I won’t be surprised if she asks me what time daddy is coming home about 200 times a day.

where's my daddy?

where's my daddy?

And the moment she hears daddy’s voice go “hey baby girl, I’m home!”, she breaks out into the widest grin of her life. Her eyes dart to the door and she starts to chuckle and gurgle, like she’s trying to get daddy’s attention. So far, no one else but daddy has succeeded in making her giggle. It’s like he doesn’t even try and she’s giggling like well, a little girl. And the look of sheer delight when she’s in daddy’s arms, that’s priceless. NOT FAIR. How come I don’t get that kind of reception when I step out huh?

But I don’t really mind though, because I’m reluctantly going to admit that daddies are cooler. They teach you how to do all the badass stuff like making a fire with stones and killing zombies with a sledgehammer. Moms just make you eat your vegetables and clean your room.

So I’m cool with having a daddy’s girl. As long as we get to have our special girly time doing manicures. sticking rollers in our hair and checking out hot guys.

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milestones & musings

Of all the things to be, it’s best to be thankful

November 28, 2009

Thanksgiving is not big here but it should be though. We all need to remember to be thankful once in a while, before we get so caught up in how life’s not fair because we don’t have a private jet in our backyard.

When you’re thankful, you look at what you have rather than what you don’t have. When you’re thankful, you can give to others because you’ve been given much. When you’re thankful, you find the silver lining.

So it’s good for me to take time just to be thankful and to teach the kids to do the same. I woke up this morning and here’s all the stuff that I’m thankful for.

For a husband who is my best friend and my pillar of strength. When I get insomnia after watching Harry Potter and the HBP at midnight (because it’s scary alright), he stays up to hug me and tell me that he’ll protect me if death eaters come knocking. Then he wakes up early to watch the kids while I sleep in because I had a rough night.

For the most awesome kids in the history of kids. They’re beautiful and happy and healthy and they make me smile even when I’m up to my elbows in human excretions.

For a family that I love and who loves me. That even though we’re not perfect and we don’t see eye to eye all the time, family means that we stick together no matter what. As far as families go, sometimes that’s all we need. Sticking together. Also, they help me watch the kids so we can take a breather every week.

For friends, new and old. There’s nothing better than having old friends to share a cuppa with. And for new friends, who in time to come, will become old friends.

But above all, I’m most thankful because I know what it means to be loved unconditionally. That no matter how bad things get, I know that it’s going to be ok because God is good. Like really, really good.

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kids inc

Why you should have a girl

November 25, 2009
Prettiest. girl. ever.

Prettiest. girl. ever.

Because you can make them wear a ribbon on their head like they’re a pretty little present. It’s like getting a present every day. And presents are awesome.

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